BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

 

Click on this link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2nAqRjEgd0 to watch Jamie Smart tell us about our Authentic Self.

“Have you ever heard a quote by Marianne Williamson that says “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

It’s our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

You see, there is a model of how human beings are.

You see a little kid, a little baby. Little babies are very, very confident. They have a natural kind of energy that shines out of them

You can think of that you. You were all babies at one point. As being like a diamond. Just perfect, totally authentic, totally open, totally shining.

You know, you take a baby. You guys are a bunch of cool guys. If we brought a baby in here, you’ll be 50% kind of repulsed because it’s a baby, and 50% going “aahhhh….” Because babies make people shine. It’s this baby thing, its kind of weird.

So, we got that naturally within us, all of us. And the cool thing about babies? They ask for what they want. They want something, you’ll know about it.

They are not going, what have I got to do to get this and that thing. They’ll let you know right away. And they are amazing.

Babies don’t realise that they are anything other than they’re completely fantastic.

Here’s what happens.

We learn. We learn all kinds of things. All kinds of good things because, what we are in essence is, learning machines. We are amazing learners.

See here’s the thing. Whenever, I travel to London, I use SATNAV now (satellite navigation i.e. GPS). I tend to use SATNAV. But I used to use the A-Z. The A–Z is a map of London.

It’s a map of London, but it’s not London. It’s just a map. London is far too big to be contained in a book that fits in my glove box. It’s got far too many things in it. Far too many qualities, it’s got buildings, its got people. It’s got millions and millions of things that could never be contained in a map. A map’s useful for navigating it but it’s not London.

Now here’s the thing, do me a favour. Just touch your nose. Do it. Isn’t it amazing?

Now here’s the thing, if you don’t think so, then you have not been around me long enough. Here’s the thing. There was a time when you couldn’t do that. When you didn’t know how to do that. There was a time when you didn’t even know what the word nose meant. When you didn’t even know that, that was your hand. Well that’s my hand, your one was yours. You didn’t know it was your hand. You didn’t know that there was a relationship between, and you learned it, and you learned it fast and you learnt it without going for any courses or reading any books. You learnt the way about the different parts of your body. You built a map of you, of your body, of your world and the important people in your world.

And, the first time you heard the word “milk” you didn’t even know what it was. It was just a sound, not distinct from your mum coughing or anything else. But then very, very quickly, you learn to associate that sound with that warm, nourishing yummy liquid. And you did that with all the words you ever learnt.

See, your body is designed for a world of things and experience. Not for a world of words. But you can translate the words I’m saying so quickly into the things that makes sense to your deeper body and mind. That it happens automatically. So what you did, was you built a map of you. And that map of you contains all the ideas that you have about yourself and the world. And each of those ideas, you imagine like a shining light, like a light bulb. Each of these ideas is like a cobweb. Maybe it’s the idea that it is not OK to get angry. Where it’s not OK to do certain things. Or that you can’t do this. You can’t do that. Or you shouldn’t do this, you shouldn’t do that.

And what we get, is like a layer of shit around the diamond.

Diamond’s still there, and there’s like a layer of horse poo around it.

So what we then do, is we build a personality. And the personality goes on like nail polish on the outside of the horse poo.

Nice metaphor, hah. Just stay with me on this one.

So, the diamond. That’s who you really are.

That shining, amazing light.

So, horse poo is who we fear we are.

And the nail polish, the “personality” is who we pretend to be.

Which gets us where? Well, here’s where it gets us.

We show the personality, cause what we don’t want anyone to see is the horse poo, cause that’s what we fear we are. “Oh, mustn’t let them see the shit. Oh, pretend everything is great.”

All we need to do is to clear that (horse shit and nail polish) away so that the light can shine through.

The light of who we really are. The light of our desires.

You know. Here’s the thing. In a while I ask you what you want in this area of your life, I'll call love life, relationships, women or however you want to think about that.

What is it that you want? And some of the things that you want, I’m guessing that you’ll be happy to share with the room. And there may be things that you want that you feel you mustn’t let anyone know, “Oh my god, if they find out that I like to do that they would stone me in the car park”.

So we pretend. We pretend to be other than who we are. And no where is this more often the case, than when it comes to meeting women.

So we pretend to be someone whom we are not. And what do women say? They say, “Just be yourself”. We’ve asked a thousand women for advice on men, on about how to be more successful with women.

They say, “Just be yourself”.

Well, who do they mean? They don’t mean this (the glittering nail polish). They mean be who you really are.

Be honest. Be authentic.

Just be yourself.

John Grinder Defines NLP

Click on this link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYU7dkG6DtA&feature=related to watch John Grinder define NLP.

"The two major categories of activities that go under the title of NLP, from my point of view, are what I consider the crowning achievement, the most radical part of the proposal that’s implicit in the whole approach of NLP, which is modelling.

I recognise a thousand different varieties of modelling. I think as a species we are compulsive, obsessive about modelling as creating a knowledge base of our internal maps which allows us to make guesses of what actually is going on out there, and provide rules of engagement for conduct in the world.

Now, we have among us, people we recognised as geniuses who achieved such superior levels of performance in some discipline or in some particular professional activity, that they become avatars or exemplars or if our attitude is appropriate, an opportunity for us to upgrade the quality of our own game.

The question is how do you get access to these deep patterns of genius in order to assimilate them yourselves, so you have the choice, and then finally in some cases the ability to make explicit what you have assimilated and now have this behavioural competency in the form of a transferable code or verbal, or verbal plus some formal aspects.

This, of course, is the description of the history of the development of NLP.

And the answer surprisingly enough is to become quite childlike. The paradox is the following. Everybody knows that children are the most powerful, accelerated learners in any context, this is independent of language or culture. Where the children are able to do, we adults find difficult.

And the answer is the children do not have to compare the incoming data stream of experiences as they are in the presence of their parents, other children and authority figures with already a well developed set of internal maps which are the basis of their trail and error in the world. They have very little of this. Therefore the task of unfiltered assimilation of what’s going on in their environment becomes essentially the principal learning strategy by which all of you watching and listening to this presentation have achieved the most important parts of your competencies as a human being.

So we know the system works brilliantly. It’s very much in parallel to the fact that children have no problem learning languages, other than the native language, or local language, for the simple reason that they have a set of circuits, Chomsky once referred to as the organ language or language acquisition device. Which given exposure to stimulation, that is speech patterns of native speakers around them will automatically go through this assimilation process, unconsciously, uncritically, and by trial and error and through play activity, with no sense of self consciousness, it will come to a quick mastery of a language which is interesting because some of the most competent people I’ve met, intellectually in terms of research in the world, have not to date succeed in creating a single complete grammar of any significant portion of any natural language.

This in a way is a measure of complexity. Now this is a very complex task obviously. But it can be done, if the stance of the learner takes is appropriate. Both in language learning, and more generally in the modelling of genius.

If you apply a non NLP strategy, roughly a left brain and a livid strategy, you will probably learn powerful and important things, and probably at high speed. The problem is the things you will learn are essentially confirmation of elements already in your internal maps.

If you use your internal maps, your local knowledge base as the basis for a comparative, analytic attempt to understand as you are exposed to the patterns of the genius. You are only essentially setting a band with your set of filters and anything that gets to get through these filters will get through simply because they are congruent with distinctions already in the knowledge base, internal maps.

This means that the key elements that make this person a genius are unlikely to pass unless you are already a genius in this area. Even then, styles, the particular patterns of this genius, may not be compatible and commensurate with the ones that you already have.

If you really wish a deep appreciation, and the ability to assimilate fundamental patterns of genius, one choice you have in a face to face communication encounter with the genius is to suspend all that stuff which removes the filtering effects of the accumulated knowledge base, internal maps.

We remove that set of filters and allow you as a child does, with absolutely no attempt to understand what you are doing, through imitation, micro muscle movement, your neurons, synesthesia, to assimilate complex patterns, at high speed, with the same kind of depth which is typical of the source of these patterns of the genius.

If on the other hand, you activate your knowledge base, your internal maps, than only those elements in the genius’ behaviour which corresponds to some elements in your internal map will pass the bypass filter.

And there are many cases in which the extreme effort involved in the doing NLP unconscious assimilation, extreme for an adult, easy for a child. Making all those arrangement and carrying out this kind of modelling, that there are cases where you want to use mixed modelling. That is you may do part of it consciously and part of unconscious assimilation.

In general, the question is a practical question in a corporate setting for example, if you give me, the top sales person, or the top strategic planner, or the team which is consistently more productive and profitable than any other of the work teams, it is possible for me to give you back a model which is transferable using either analytic or NLP unconscious assimilation modelling.

If it is something that is relatively simple, I may be able to get it analytically, and this of course depends once again on the state of my knowledge base. So, there is a risk here. That I may not allow to pass because of the filtering exactly the difference that makes a difference between this top production team, and all the other teams.

So, there are no mistakes here. There are consequences to the strategy you use. If you have the competency or willingness to develop the competency, suspend access to your internal knowledge base, your internal maps, and participate in subconscious assimilation I guarantee you, you’ll get the patterns."

John Grinder Explains What NLP is About

Click on this link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hJzO5x6ko6w to watch John Grinder explain what NLP is about.

“There are people around us that we meet on a daily basis as well as sort of famous people, people who have been identified socially as being particularly adept and excellent in their performance.

NLP is the bridge between either being jealous of such people, or admiring them. This offers in Tony Blair’s terms, a third way.

Rather than simply admiring or being jealous of such people, it gives you a specific set of strategies, to unconsciously assimilate precisely the differences that make a difference between these geniuses, let’s say, and an average performer in the same niche.

It is an accelerated learning strategy. It is a mapping of tacit to explicit knowledge. It is a programme that allows you to explore one extreme of human behaviour, namely excellence.

Side comment, I have been astonished since I first learnt about this thing called psychology. That it focuses on average performance. Bertrand Russell, I remember reading when I was just nine or ten years old, an article called “On Education” by Bertrand Russell, in which he proposed something that has a great deal of wisdom. The structure of the educational system, even today, 2003, is closely allied with the structure of industrial work context. And that the implicit objective of most mass educational systems is the preparation of the citizen to participate in the work force. I think we could do it a lot better.

From my own point of view we are living in the age of the accountant, the age of the left brain, and for historical rebalancing purposes, some set of strategies, NLP is an example of this set, some set of strategies which restore the recognition of, and the active deployment of unconscious processes, as an essential ingredient in learning, would serve very well to restore some kind of balance. We are in the age of imbalance at this point, in favour of the so-called dominant hemisphere.

So, NLP then in summary, in its heart, in its core activity, is the modelling of excellence which includes the phase of unconscious assimilation in which you suspend all attempts of conscious processes, all attempts to make meaning of your experience in favour of registering it with macro or micro muscle movements. And, imitating the behaviours which are the behaviours that make the difference between the genius and the average, in parallel context, until you can produce in your behaviour, and invoke from your group the same responses with the same quality in roughly the same timeframe.

That’s criteria. Until you achieve that criteria, you remain unconscious and imitative.

When you achieve the criteria, then “click”, you switch on all these analytic competencies that all the conscious processes which you work so hard in universities and other places to develop. You go ahead and do a very powerful and very challenging part of modelling which is to find an explicit vocabulary, usually sensory grounded, in which you can code what you are now capable of doing behaviourally.

So, you have two data points. The model, him or herself or the team, and your own behaviour, since you had demonstrated through imitation, you can achieve the same results in the world. That’s your original model.

Of course, NLP for 99% of the people of the world has nothing to do with what I just described. It is the utilisation of the product of these core processes which I have just described. That is the distinction between the process of actually modelling excellence and making it explicit and then its subsequent application after it’s been packaged. People like packages. The majority of people that claim to do NLP are doing NLP application. This is to be applauded. There’s lots of creativity in this activity.

It’s not the core activity. It’s capitalising or exploiting the product of the core activity. That is the product is an explicit model which it then can be applied in multiple contexts. If it’s well done, as I said, this is to be applauded. And, my concern expressedly is, if no one is following, no one is refilling the well.

And, as you here in Western Australia know as well as I do, here in London and when I am in California, that it is nearly impossible, at this point historically, to attend the higher management training for example that doesn’t consist largely of NLP patterns. Whether they are so identified as having that as a source or not.

It’s fine. I have no difficulty with this.

I prefer that they mention the source because it would invite people to explore other dimensions which are not been presented in the workshop.

But the fact is being so deeply integrated into these advanced courses, it is to be applauded and greeted with joy because it is the product. The payoff is the application.

Obviously, my agenda which is not very secret, which is to recruit people who will engage in the modelling process itself.”

Eye Accessing Cue Demonstration

To watch the Eye Accessing Cue Demonstration, click on this link   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rl9sOYPT5UY

Pierto, we’re going to do eye pattern demonstrations with you now.

First question is.

When you were a boy, remember the house where you lived in. What is the colour of the room that you grew up in?

Blue. (Eyes look up and to the left – Visual Recall)

If you think back to that room as well, what colour, what would it look like in your mind, if it was red with pink spots.

Funny. (Eyes look up and to the right – Visual Construct)

Somebody’s voice. Let’s say your mother’s voice. What does your mother’s voice sound like?

That’s it. You can hear her voice in you head right now. (Eyes look sideways and to the left – Auditory Recall)

What would your mother’s voice sound like, if she sounded like Donald Duck?

Odd. (Eyes look sideways and to the right – Auditory Construct)

Imagine. Cause you live in Brighton don’t you? So, what is like if you go down on the beach, just with bare feet walking along the beach?

Hot and steamy. (Eyes look down and to the left – Kinesthetic)

What I like you to do now is to recite the thirteen times table, and that’s it, you recite that table in your mind.

(Eyes look down and to the right – Auditory Digital)

Richard Bandler Explains What NLP is About

Click on this link to watch Richard Bandler explain what NLP is about http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8vlcsFJyEXQ

"Neuro-linguistic Programming came out of the work that I did, modelling the way people thought.

What we did was so unique. When I started out, there were forty schools of psychotherapy. All arguing about who had the right approach, when none of them could reliably do a single thing. They couldn’t fix phobias, they couldn’t do this, they couldn’t do that. Every once in a while, they were successful but most of the time they were so busy arguing about their theories.

What I started looking at was the natural process by which people make mental changes. We looked at the neurological configurations. We looked at the linguistic structures that are hard wired in the mind, and found out about how people learn. And so that people could be able, just like when you program a computer, program yourself, to be able to do things.

We can reliably get rid of a phobia in ten minutes, every single time because we found out not by studying people that had phobias but by studying people who had gotten over phobias, and finding out how they did it. What they did at the neurological level and at the subjective level.

Neuro-linguistic Programming is the study of the structure of subjectivity. The way in which we make pictures, where they are located, how big they are. Where we locate our voices, and how we alter our feelings, of what I call emotional states. Whether they rotate this way, or this way.

All of those little details give you a set of tools, that by which people can make absolutely profound changes easily and quickly."